Monsters in Love: Why Your Partner Sometimes Drives You Crazy--And What You Can Do about It (Paperback)
A gritty, down-to-earth guide for real-life couples Conflict is a natural part of any intimate relationship. Yet most couples either avoid it or try to smooth over their differences. This often results in at least one partner compromising their integrity--and stunting their own growth.Monsters in Love challenges the idea that conflict between partners is unhealthy or something to avoid. Instead, it encourages both people to stand by what they need and who they are--but to do so with compassion rather than competitiveness or vengefulness. This book is about the reality of committed, intimate relationships, which are designed to inspire both people to grow up. It challenges some common misperceptions about what makes for a successful partnership. It also rocks the boat of psychotherapy, calling out therapists who don't bring their best to their clients. Instead of comforting fantasies or false promises, Monsters in Love offers you and your partner a chance to make your relationship--and your lives--much bigger and more emergent.
Resmaa Menakem, MSW, LICSW, SEP, is a healer, a longtime therapist, and a licensed clinical social worker who specializes in couples, conflict in relationships, the healing of trauma, and domestic violence prevention. He is also a cultural trauma navigator and a communal provocateur and coach. He is best known as the author of the New York Times bestseller My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies, and as the originator and key advocate of Somatic Abolitionism, an embodied anti-racist practice of living and culture building. Resmaa helps people rise through suffering's edge. His work focuses on making the invisible visible. You can learn more about him at www.resmaa.com.